Divorce is one of the most emotionally taxing experiences a person can endure. It disrupts your sense of self and leaves you searching for solid ground. This blog post is more serious than what I typically share, but I feel it’s important to open up about my current experience. Yes, I am going through a divroce. For those who might be going through something similar, know that you’re not alone. This is the main reason why I am sharing this personal information in a public manner. Old School Magic became more than just a game for me; it became a therapeutic escape and a way to connect with a community that offers genuine support. The camaraderie I find here extends far beyond the cards and beers—it’s about supporting one another through life’s challenges.

The Emotional Turmoil of Divorce

As my marriage ends, I feel lost and overwhelmed. The sense of failure and the constant waves of emotion make it difficult to focus on anything. Everyday tasks feel monumental, and the future seems uncertain. On top of navigating the complexities of divorce, I’m also starting a new job on the first of September. While this new beginning adds to the level of stress, it also gives me something to focus on during the day—a welcome distraction from the emotional turmoil. Having been on paid leave for the last couple of months, I find that too much free time leaves me alone with my thoughts, amplifying the pain. The anticipation of returning to work, with its structure and demands, is a double-edged sword, both daunting and relieving at the same time.

A Welcome Distraction

Old School Magic has been a part of my life for five years, and through it, I’ve made some great friends within the community. But as my divorce takes its toll, I struggle to give the Edge-Man Championship the attention it deserves. I try, but the joy and energy that once fueled my involvement are hard to come by. The Edge-Man thrives on enthusiastic energy, and lately, that’s something I’ve been lacking. Despite this, I have a lot of one-on-one talks with community members about my divorce, and I spend hours brewing decks, losing myself in my binders. It’s a helpful way to clear my mind and focus on something positive, even if just for a short time. It’s a world I can dive into, where the complexities of life are reduced to the strategies on the table. Building decks, learning plays, and even just sorting through my old cards gives me a sense of purpose when everything else feels chaotic. The game allows me to channel my thoughts into something constructive, helping to quiet the emotional noise.

I got you!

During my divorce, the Old School community became a lifeline I didn’t know I needed. Players I’ve come to know over the years step up in ways I hadn’t expected, offering not just friendship but true support. It isn’t just about playing games anymore; it’s about connecting on a deeper level. Conversations about life, shared experiences in divorce, and even just knowing someone is there to listen make a world of difference. The sense of camaraderie within this community is something special, and it’s a crucial part of helping me cope with the emotional challenges I’m facing.

Old School Magic doesn’t solve all my problems, but it does give me the mental break I need. It reminds me that it’s okay to take time for yourself, to find joy in something simple, and to connect with others who share this passions. The game, and the community surrounding it, plays a crucial role in helping me navigate the emotional turbulence of my divorce.

In the end…

Going through a divorce is never easy, but finding a source of comfort and a community of support can make all the difference. For me, that comfort comes in the form of Magic: The Gathering. It provides a distraction, a way to process my emotions, and, most importantly, a reminder that even in the midst of personal turmoil, you can find joy and connection. I also want to extend a heartfelt thank you to everyone who helps me in one way or another over the past few months, whether through a kind word, a listening ear, or simply being there. Big or small, your support means the world to me, and I owe you a great deal. You know who you are!

Moving forward

I know that once the transition is complete and my ex-wife has moved out, I’ll be able to rediscover my joy and energy. (Yes, that’s a bit of a joke to lighten the mood!) But seriously, this change will allow me to begin real healing and focus on what lies ahead. I’m excited to announce that The Edge-Man Championship is set to be bigger and better this January. It’s an opportunity to channel my renewed energy into something I’m passionate about.

I’m also incredibly fortunate that my ex-wife understands how important Magic is to me and respects it as my hobby. She’s made it clear that she will never take that away from me, not even the half she’s entitled to. I feel truly blessed by this, I know some of you were not so fortunate. Despite everything that has happened, my wife and I are parting on good terms and will remain friends. Our two beautiful children will forever be a bond between us, reminding us of the positive aspects of our shared journey. Moving forward, I’m optimistic about the future and grateful for the support and understanding that surrounds me.

A Call to Action

If you’re going through a tough time, don’t hesitate to reach out to a community, whether it’s one centered around a hobby, a sport, or any other interest. Sometimes, the simplest things can offer the most profound support. Know that The Edge-Man has your back, no matter what! ❤️